There have been a few occassions where Grandy will admit she has ticked hubby off to a point where he is yelling at her (or trying to yell over her might be more appropriate) but those times are very few and far between. I know a couple family members have felt his temper flare, but really, he's a very mellow guy.
So when hubby does get upset for what appears to be no good reason, or something neither my son and I did or could control, it is sometimes just safer to stay out of the way and let it come out.
Imagine this scenario:
**Location - Grandy Home
**Time - 9:00 pm Friday
**Scene - The boy scout troop is scheduled to leave at 7:45 am for a snow campout the next morning. He has just gotten home from being on the road and just gotten out of the shower. Grandy has just returned home earlier that afternoon from traveling on business. Essentially we're both tired and he's not prepared... bad combination.
Him: Where are my long johns?
Me: (Having logged in to get some more work done) I don't know...what did you do with them?
Him: I can't find them. I didn't do anything with them. You did.
Me: Did I?
Him: (walking back into bedroom...begins throwing shoes around in the closet, although I don't know why) You need to find them!
Me: I do?
Him: Yeah, you lost them.
Me: Nope! I washed them, folded them, and put them in your stack.
Him: S*(@#& - blah blah blah - tired - blah blah - can't find - yada yada - crap! - blah blah.
Ty enters the dining room where I am still working. He looks cautious as he hears shoes and blah blah coming from the bedroom.
Ty: What happened?
Me: It's not important.
Ty: Was it ME?
Me: Nope! Not me either, which is why it might be best for you to brush your teeth and get to bed. Safer for all.
Hubby still going: ($&*@)* Tired - Yada yada - sh!t - blah blah - #S!!
After a little while he emerged... without those dang long johns. He did look better though, but beat. We all decided it was for the best to call it an early night since they had to get upso early to go camp in the snow (doesn't sound much fun to me) but I love the way those two get excited to do these things together.
I find that when he is having one of those moods, it's just easier to let him vent. I have this blog, my friends, or my family that I can call. Men often need their own place to be able to vent their frustration.
My thing...the hard part for me... is to NOT laugh when he's in the middle of one.
I'll keep working on that one.