Wednesday, March 19, 2008

A Letter To Ty

To My Ty,

It's March 19th, my favorite day of the year!!

I tease you and say it's because it's the last day of Winter, but you know the real reason, because you're smart and sly that way...and you get me.

I can't believe it was 12 years ago today you blessed my life. I was a single mom, who barely knew what she was supposed to do, and you came into my world and truly saved me. From the moment you were born, you and I have been thick as thieves, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

You wouldn't remember this, because you were about 2 1/2 at the time, but here's just one example of how you saved me on a night that I felt I was in my darkest hour.

We had just moved away from living 2 minutes from Nana and Papa, to now being 3 hours away, we were in our new place, and I was looking for work. I was having a bit of a "melt down" and feeling lost, while you sat and watched cartoons. You turned and looked at me, so seriously, walked over to me and touched my tears. "Wa up mama?" you asked. "Nothing baby, Mommy's just tired," I lied. You walked away into the bathroom and came back with something in your hand, behind your back. You were so serious, and yet smiling softly. I still remember thinking how have I come to deserve this little man? In that moment you handed me a square, just one square, of toilet paper. "Is ok mommy" you said, as you handed me the square. It was then that I realized how truly deep your sensitivities ran. You made my night with that square, and many more nights.

You've always been fearless, my boy. When this picture was taken, your helmet weighed almost as much as you did. So how would you put it on? You'd put it on the ground and stick your head into it. Brilliant!

When you introduced me to your dad, you loved him right away. I knew that. What wasn't to love? But as we all grew closer, together, I could see that this was indeed the best fit for both of us.

I still remember your first words when I called you at Papa's and told you he gave me a ring. "Well it's about time!" Up until that time, with every chance you got, you were buying me little rings and presenting them to me in front of him. I didn't catch on at the time (I'm a little slow that way) but I later realized that you were trying to get him to catch on. You are so SMART!

When we got married, how could I not have you give me away?? You and Grandpa were the two main men in my life, and it was only fitting that you be the one to welcome the new guy. ;)

So here you are...12 years old today. It makes me cry to think you're getting so big, and yet it makes me proud to see how you're growing. You still ride your dirt bike like nobody's business. You're quite the Boy Scout, as you work together with your dad on your advancements. You're almost a teen and yet you're not to big to play with your baby cousins. Just are still a kid and it's okay to to be one.

Nice try on this one. :)

Happy Birthday Ty!! I love you more than you will ever know. I am so blessed every day you are in my life! I pray we have many many MANY more birthdays to share.

Now...Go clean your room.




Anonymous said...

What a handsome guy! I love that first picture. Happy Birthday Ty. My youngest will be 12 in August and I just cannot fathom that.

Dens said...

Okay Mar, how many times did I cry reading this?? I remember when he was born, how small he was next to his giant Mickey...and how many times did I see him walking around naked with is finger in his belly button...
I remember the night you found out you were pregnant...yikes, flashbacks...
Mary, you are the best mom I know...and a true friend.

love you, love Ty...and Happy Birthday big guy!!

okay, Aaron, love you too!!lol...

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

What a lovely tribute. Tell him Happy Birthday from me.

Mrs. G. said...

Happy Birthday to your handsome boy!

Nanci said...

Beautiful Grandy! Just beautiful. What a nice tribute to read. Send my birthday wishes your Tyler. And I remember when he was excited about 'getting married'. Nice job raising such a fine young man. Pat yourself on the back, then sit down at rest, will ya?

dkuroiwa said...

Grandy....this was beautiful!! It's amazing how these little people can make our lives thousands of times better than what we ever imagined.
Happy Birthday, Ty. I hope you have a super day!!

Anonymous said...

He is a handsome guy! And, soooooo sweet. I'm glad you have such an awesome little dude to brighten up your life.

Travis said...

Happy Birthday to your little man! He sounds like a great kid.

Sandy C. said...

What a sweet post! *sniff*

That is just adorable about him presenting you rings :)
A lovely tribute post.
Happy Birthday Ty!

Suzanne said...

Happy Birthday, Ty! Isn't it amazing how you blink and you've got an almost teenager?

Have a happy day with your men!

Huse Blog is it Anyway? said...

Happy Birthday Ty!!!

I don't know your email address, so I'm responding to your comment here. I'm glad you're just as annoyed with Paula as I am!

And no, I don't hate you because you don't follow AI. However, you'll probably stop reading my blog because that's so much of what I blog about this time of year!

April said...

This was SO incredibly sweet!!! I teared up reading it!

Kelly O said...

Happy birthday to the little man!

Tina Coruth said...


That is a lovely tribute to your handsome boy!

Happy Birthday, Ty!! :-)


Melissa said...

You made me cry too. I'm still crying as I type this. -And I was doing so well NOT crying today! :P

krissy said...

What a wonderful post! And what a handsome boy!

Happy Birthday!!!!

Grandy said...

Trees~ Thanks! They get big so fast, don't they?

Dens~ You've been there from the beginning, my friend. Remember the "price check"? Thank you, from the bottom of my heart!!!!

Jenn~ Thanks!! He read your happy birthday himself and got a big smile. :D

Mrs. G~ He is a cutie...thanks for noticin'.

Nanci~ Whew...I did need a rest on his birthday, Pizza with his friends took a lot outta me. Thanks for the reminder.

dk~ I remember how scared I was when I found out...but it's amazing how things turn out.

Grandy said...

Dee~ We both have our awesome dudes, don't we? ;)

Travis~ Thanks so much...he is.

Sandy~ Let's just hope he's not doing any more "ring presentations" for a LONG TIME.

Suzanne~ Yep...can I somehow backwards blink?

Huse~ Nah...I probably won't stop reading your blog, I'll just be well informed on things American Idol.

Grandy said...

April~ You should have seen the size of the tears I had writing it.

Kelly~ Thanks fine lady!!

Tina~ Thanks so much! Like the new pic. You're always changing that, aren't ya? :)

Melissa~ Have you stopped crying yet? Sorry...

Krissy~ Thanks so much!!

Renie Burghardt said...

Oh, my, I teared up too! What a sweet tribute to a sweet young man. Happy Birthday, Ty! Stay as sweet as you are!

Birthday Hugs,


MP said...

So your SON introduced you to your husband? How awesome is that? are for SURE guest hosting while I'm on vacation.

Melissa said...

Woo hoo! MP: May I suggest these two posts:

Okay thank you.

I couldn't make this up

Grandy said...

Renie~ Thank you so much for stopping by and sending your wishes. :)

MP~ Yep, my son did indeed introduce us. I'd be glad to guest post for ya.

Melissa~ Thanks for the vote of confidence. ;)

Grandy said...

Melissa~ p.s. How did you do the link to a post in the comments? I'm jealous!!

Rhea said...

What a wonderful, touching post! I have an eleven year old son, and your post had me sneaking into his room tonight to ruffle his hair. Our dog, Annie, who sleeps with him gave me a strange look. :o)

Happy Birthday to you son! He's as lucky to have you in his life as you are to have him.

Mike Golch said...

what a handsome young man-child you have there.I wish him a happybitrhday as well,and yes my Mom did that to me as well.gave me a bitrhbay party at home and when it was all said and done ,Now go clean your room.

Al said...

Looks, and SOUNDS like a great kid! Happy (belated) birthday Ty! May all of your wishes and dreams come to fruition.

might I add...? said...

That was such a sweet post. Happy day/week to both of you.

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storyteller said...

I’m happy to have found this lovely letter to your son …(albeit a few days late because I’ve been distracted by tennis … among other things). Wish him a happy ‘belated’ birthday from me. So … did he clean his room? LOL

Happy Easter to you and yours!
Hugs and blessings,

Melissa said...

"Melissa~ p.s. How did you do the link to a post in the comments? I'm jealous!!"

First, to find the direct link to the post, click on the post title. The page that opens will have that post only. Copy that URL.

Next use HTML code to make a link:


(Now you want to know how I made italics don't you ;) <i>Put the words you want italicized here.</i> )

Michele said...

This is really sweet. Looks like you've raised a fine young man! Happy (belated) birthday to Ty! And Happy Easter, too! Sorry, I'm so far behind. :'(


Grandy said...

rhea~ Thank you so much for your kind words, and for stopping by. Welcome!!

Mike~ Well we moms will try anything to get our boys to clean their rooms.

Al~ He's off dirt biking all weekend with friends. I'm guessing at least his short term wishes have come to fruition. ;)

might~ Thanks so much!! How thoughtful of you to stop by.

storyteller~ He always thinks his room is "clean enough". When he was little he would say..."but there's a path".

Melissa~ You AE the BEST! ;)

Michele~ No apologies for having a life. Happy Easter!!

Melissa said...


I think we all ae the best! :D