Thursday, May 7, 2009

A Rant Letter from the Middle-Man

Dear Mr. & Mrs. Soon-To-Be-Exes;

Grandy understands that not all marriages are designed to last. We all can appreciate how difficult divorce can be to go through.

You are both very giving people, offer your own strengths, and are very valuable to our group of parents. It can't be easy to work so closely on community things, when you are going through your divorce. This is why Grandy has given you every f*cking opportunity to step back on your responsibilities within our volunteer board.

Really, as leader of that board, I encourage you to take some time to evaluate your priorities. It's VOLUNTEER! You are going through a lot!! I GET IT!! I have tried to give you your out!! Frankly, there isn't a week that goes by that I don't try to encourage at least 3 people to fire me from this board.

HOWEVER (and you knew this was coming) the moment you start using said board as a pawn in your little games of "who's going to look bad" and "where's waldo the idiot" I must draw the line.

In my day job, I must diplomatically tell people bad things all the time. As a member of this board, I must be equally diplomatic with parents of our boys and the community. Trying to keep your internal games from being obvious to the group is absolutely killing me though.


We are here for the kids. I know you love your kids. Please step up, do what you promised you would do, and then back off!!


Sincerely hoping you will fire me soon...


Deanna said...

I'm not a 100%,full-fledged "stay together for the kids" advocate. (although if more people would choose that over their own selfish ambition, maybe there'd be less divorce) But I appreciate it so much when couples that do get divorced manage to be civil to each other for the kids. My parents didn't. Well, ONE parent didn't. Still doesn't, after almost 30 years! And expects us to sympathize. ;-(

The Mother said...

Using the kids to get back at/ undermine the other spouse in a divorce is a travesty.

I have met so many f**ked up kids who were the product of these breakups. I don't even want mine around them.

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

If someone won't fire you I think someone needs to fire them.

Mike Golch said...

I would like to toss this into the mix,aside from the games the divorced parents play,how about the games being played the parents's parents even if the parents are not divorcing???
Case in point,in the late sixities both my grand mothers tried to use me as a wedge to driven between my parents. I think I will do a posting about that one.

Mike Golch said...

I just wanted to add that i posted the post that i just refered to in my last posting.EVERYBODY SHOULD READ AND COMMENT ON THAT POST,EVEN IF YOU DONOT AGREE WITH WHAT I SAID.

joegrimjow said...

kids are wonderful gift

Joyce-Anne said...

Personally, I think the parents should be locked up together and the key thrown away. Sometimes I wonder why people just don't grow up and then I realize that it's easier NOT to become a true, responsible adult.